Is your life feeling unbalanced? Are you yearning to live more consciously, but continuously feeling pulled back under by waves of stress, toxicity, and personal drama? You are not alone, my friends. So many lovely souls are struggling to find balance between conscious living and everyday life routines. Luckily, this a balancing act that can be beautifully executed by committing to self-care and walking away from some very soul-damaging habits.
Let Go of Perfectionism
In every aspect of our lives from our jobs, our relationships, and even our hobbies, it seems that we are not satisfied until perfectionism has been achieved. While it may be true that we need to focus on precision in some areas, that isn't an across-the-board truth. For example, a surgeon needs to make sure she perfectly executes the removal of a patient's gallbladder. Does everything else in her life need to be so neat and tidy without error?
The answer is no.
If we want to lead mindful lives, we must let go of the notion that we have one destination: perfectionism. In truth, we have many destinations awaiting us, my friends. Getting to these destinations doesn't require perfection, but a willingness to walk through a little messiness to find the destination that is best for you now.
Shed Hateful Thoughts
How many times a day do we say we hate something? We hate traffic. We hate cooking dinner. We hate doing laundry. Hate is such a strong, passionate word that feeds our bodies a spoonful of toxicity everytime we say the words I hate out loud. The next time you’re stuck with a task you dislike think of a different way to express your feelings. Try putting a positive spin on the situation. Small thought modifications can have a huge impact on your happiness and well-being.
Right on the heels of hateful thoughts is the inability to let forgiveness guide our actions. Forgiveness is something that many people, including myself, struggle with because we believe that forgiving someone is saying what they did didn't matter or have any effect on us.
“Let no man pull you so low as to hate him.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr.
This is one of my favorite quotes from Martin Luther King, Jr. Forgiving someone isn't so much about letting them off the hook for hurting you, but it's about rising above the pain, the betrayal, and the loss, so that you can heal yourself. When we hold anger in bodies, we're snuffing out the good. We are our thoughts, my dear thought warriors. On some level, we realize this so why are we choosing to hold onto so much anger in our bodies? Let it go. Choose to consciously hold forgiveness in your heart to find joy that is hiding in plain sight.
Block Self-Deprecating Thoughts
We can blame others for damaging our souls, but it is our self-deprecating thoughts that cause the most injury. Why are we putting ourselves down? Were you taught that a little self-deprecating humor was the perfect shield against humiliation? Were you taught to laugh and find fault with yourself before others find it in you? It’s true that we tend to take ourselves too seriously. It’s a uniquely human condition. Yet, making fun of yourself and treating yourself as less than will never invite conscious living into your life because it’s shielding the authentic you from penetrating the force field you’ve built around your thoughts.
My lovely, beautiful thought warriors, I have one request of you. As you move forward on your mindful living journey, please be gentle with yourself. Give yourself room to grow and room to fall. Set aside perfectionist tendencies in areas of your life where they don’t belong. Thinking kindly of yourself and others. Forgive quickly so you can rise with grace and love. Conscious living is happy living. It’s a superpower that we all have if we’re willing to connect with it.
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