Long distance relationships are difficult. For some they inspire more bitterness and fear than anything else. But if you are committed to making it work, and if you feel it won’t be a long distance thing forever, here are some suggestions.
Give into your partner more than you want to. Give them the victory. Compromise and learn patience.
Be committed. If you are cruising other people at the coffee shop or thinking about your partner’s faults, or how much you are giving to make this work, you are in trouble. Take hold of you mind and take a positive approach and outlook, and do the work of controlling your mind and actions.
Accentuate the similar interests and philosophy. Get on the same page as much as possible. If this isn’t possible, you need to really look at the chance that you aren’t really meant for each other. One of the benefits of long distances is they test this.
You will be going to movies alone or with friends. You will be eating out alone or with friends. You will be sitting alone at home watching TV. Accept this and enjoy your silence or friends. If you get mad about it that can doom the relationship. Now if your partner isn’t trying, isn’t willing to go out of their way to be with you (like get on a plane once in a while), that’s a sign they aren’t partner material.
Choose your battles. Don’t be whiney and crying and complaining. Be positive and forward looking. If you have something important to discuss, be an adult and discuss. Fighting is a different vibrational animal. Always talk about it and never text about it. Skype is even better. I was involved in a long distance relationship and we would talk on the phone and Skype and make tea and snacks and pretend we were sitting in the living room together having the conversation. It really worked.
If you get all needy, waiting and expecting for them to call, getting upset when they don’t and always in a state of dissatisfaction, you need to lower your expectations or move on. Dissatisfaction is physically, mentally and emotionally unhealthy.
Long distance relationships can and do work. They can also give you clarity that this one shouldn’t work.
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