When we are excluded, criticized, demeaned, abused, fired from a job or rejected, we feel fear, sadness, anger, guilt, shame & self-judgment. We don’t want to feel it. We generally have 2 responses 1) We push those feelings away and stuff them, or 2) we distract ourselves from them, grasping for relief by over-eating, drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, social media, and wide variety of unhealthy options. Our options habitually have been to push away or grasp, both of which create resistance. Resistance creates suffering. This resistance, our stuffing and avoiding, creates stress, a dissonant vibrational impression, vibrational density. Then we feel I am less than and separate. We create non-alignment with who we really are, and this creates dissonance. Our non-alignment and dissonance create a bad feeling place.