It is estimated that 18 to 20% of married people have sexual relationships with people outside their marriage: they cheat. 90% of women who cheat say that their outside partner appreciated them more and listened to them better than their spouse. Men found their outside partners more passionate and more caring. This is significant because most people rate looks, power, position, and other factors as significantly less important.
It appears that when the years go by and we put less attention, caring, passion and appreciation into the relationship with our partner, these needs do not become less. We look for them elsewhere. If you are thinking all the passion, caring and appreciation is gone or diminished in your marriage it should be a personal wake-up call. I don’t mean a wake-up call to suspect your partner of cheating, but a wake-up call that the situation needs to be addressed.
Most of us want to avoid the hard conversations. It’s easier, in the short term, to not address difficult problems. It’s devastating in the long run to sweep these feelings of not being appreciated, not being passionately wanted, and of not being heard, under the rug.
Find the time, the place and especially the loving approach to better the situation, and discuss how to create what is important to you. Have the conversations and take the action. When honesty and clarity combine, they move into positive action.
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