Relationships: Maybe my ex is great

Relationships: Maybe my ex is great

So you have broken up with someone and you are with someone new. It’s late at night and you are feeling your new partner (or 3rd date) just irritated you at dinner. You start remembering your ex and how you both laughed at that joke and how much fun you had in Hawaii. She/He was so kind to your mother, who was difficult to love. You’ll never meet anyone like her/him again. Why did you brake-up anyway? Will she/he want you back? Will she/he text you or call?

 

You have completely forgotten the reality of your ex-relationship. It’s back to fantasy land. The highest probability is you have started to date too soon after your break-up. Need and loneliness have set in and you should realize that you have not yet become dependent upon yourself for your own well-being, happiness and stability. You are grasping for it in the new person or in a fanciful non-fact-based assessment of your ex. This is a signpost to stop and be alone for a longer period of time to find your interior compass.

 

But what if this new person is the one? Highly unlikely because you are not yet the one for you so it’s impossible to even receive what the other has to give as long as you are coming from need.

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My mother and father slept in separate bedrooms the last 15 years of their marriage. They really didn’t like each other; not the best role models. I made a commitment to myself that if I was to find the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with I would be prepared, educated and ready. Figuring it out as I went along wasn’t acceptable to me. 4 years of college learning about relationships followed by 2 years becoming a meditation teacher learning about myself and how we experience and understand life brought me to the point, some years ago, where I began writing about relationships. ...

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