Sex is one of the most complicated psychological topics out there. The most visited sites on the internet are pornography. One of the fastest growing addictions in the world is internet porn. The internet has allowed us to ‘hook-up’ almost instantly and discretely.
For many sex has become a distraction. It is a powerful escape and allows us to be distracted from all the unresolved emotions we don’t want to address. It is instant gratification, self-pleasuring and allows us to feel good when we emotionally don’t feel good.
In a relationship sex can be physical pleasure, emotionally and energetically connecting and bonding or an expression of acceptance and love. Hopefully it’s all of these. For some who were never held, touched or physically nurtured as a child, sex can be that intimate form of contact. For some it’s an act of being wanted. As you can see it’s complicated.
The point is that sex needs to become conscious. Why do you want to have that internet experience? Why do you want to watch that pornographic movie, have that hook-up? Is there love or need or escape in the act of sex? No judgement. Just become aware. Live a conscious life. Make conscious choices. When you live consciously you can make healthy choices, you can respond with more compassion and acceptance for yourself and the other, you can integrate what needs your attention, and most importantly you can be free of all of the unresolved issues that drive behavior that can create suffering. Then you are free to enjoy sex.
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