For almost all of us there comes a time in our relationships where we consider leaving. I would like to make a suggestion that when you get to that place go someplace where you can be alone and reflect upon your shared history. Remember the wedding, the honeymoon, the vacations, the kids, the special occasions, the times you were sick and your partner helped you, the sweet remark you cherished. Remember the gift they gave you that’s sitting on the bookshelf.
Even if you hate them in this moment you have a shared history and that means you have a shared energy that binds you together. That energy is the hope of your relationship. It is that energy being ripped apart that is the real pain in divorce. And that binding energy is present even in this moment of wanting to leave the relationship.
There can be many great, important reasons to leave a relationship. There are times when you should leave a relationship. But if you are in the place where you are waffling, are contemplating leaving, are hopeful it can work out and you see a possibility of making it work, then look to this history and energy. Recognize its power and allow it to surface and be conscious. Feel it, and recognize the power in your relationship that created it.
Respond and don’t react when you are in this place of thinking of leaving. Become conscious of what you are leaving. A shared history is important and not to be discarded lightly because it is the energy from that history of love, excitement, new experiences, creativity and happiness, as well as those time of struggle that you got through together that comprise that energy. At least, recognize that energy and its importance when you are contemplating leaving.
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