A year ago my 16 year old daughter just walked in and asked me very politely to stop suggesting to her how to live her life. She said “You’re stepping on my dress”. Where the heck did she pick that up? She goes to a Catholic High School and is supposed to be finding Jesus or salvation or whatever $495.00 a month can get you these days. None of us are religious. I’m just fearful and want to protect her. She’s on her phone all the time so I really am not sure if she is protected, dealing drugs, having an affair with a non-Catholic or planning to run away. It’s probably 2 or 3 of those but as long as she’s home by 8:00 on school night’s I’m OK.
I tried for a really long time to try to control my two kids. I guess I tried it with my ex-husband too and that was so successful; not. Of course you’re dying to know, “How did that turn out, Doris?” Well, I’m obviously not doing it any more. It was requiring additional mood-altering medications on my part. As soon as I stopped trying to control everything, my medications dropped, my addictions declined (I have a whole assortment of those), and peace and joy ruled the day.
I think that is very counter-intuitive. Everything I have been taught tells me to take charge, kids should follow their parent’s orders. I should manage everything, if you don’t keep it together it’ll fall apart. I let go and learned to allow life to unfold on its own terms and nothing fell apart- it fell together. My daughter found some responsibility and I found some trust. What a relief.
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