Snoring is seldom talked about as an irritant in relationships. Yet I know several couples that sleep in separate bedrooms because one of the partners snores.
It usually starts with one partner at wits end, frustrated. Studies have shown that partners who lose sleep suffer a decline in cognitive functioning and decision making skills. In addition resentment levels rise significantly.
At first they try to spend 30 minutes in bed together reading, talking, making love or cuddling- then go into separate bedrooms to sleep. But that doesn’t last. Eventually they simply move into separate bedrooms say goodnight without spending the time reading together, talking together or cuddling. They also find that intimacy and sex suffers significantly.
And then there are the couples that avoid that solution and one tells the other to ‘roll me over when I snore.’ That means the non-snoring partner is awakened repeatedly every night. The snoring partner often doesn’t realize the seriousness of this situation and the deep anger and resentment that can build.
Here are some suggestions:
• Discuss the frustration and make it clear that it is real and needs to be dealt with
• Deal with the snoring by attending a sleep clinic or seek other solutions. Take action to end the snoring.
• Continue the discussion by expressing appreciation that the snoring partner is taking this seriously.
• For the non-snorer, try earplugs. That way both partners are working on solutions together.
75% of people who snore have obstructive sleep apnea. This should be checked out. Sleep on your side and not on your back. Being overweight can contribute to snoring. Alcohol and sleeping pills increase the chances of snoring. Being excessively tired also increases the chance of snoring. Keeping nasal passages open lessens the chance of snoring. Allergens (and dust mites) can increase snoring so change your pillow and keep pillow cases fresh and clean. Drink enough water during the day to remain hydrated, Being dehydrated can increase snoring.
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